Traci M.
Professor Donna Reiss
English 111-79D
December 10, 2001

My Everything

Have you ever wondered when life was going to go your way for a change?  It seems as though I spent most of my life dwelling on that same question. I was raised in an environment where I had no real father, but many men in my life.  My mother was married and divorced several times.  They all managed to somehow leave after always promising to stay forever.  This left me with the feeling that all men would someday leave.

After I moved out of the house, I promised myself to only get married once and somehow make things work.  I had moved away from home and, mainly due to being lonely, got married at the age of seventeen.  Then after 2 years of marriage he left.  This left me very hurt and confused blaming the world once more for all my sorrow.

That is when life finally decided to go my way.  I had crossed paths with an old acquaintance by the name of Arthur at a birthday party for my brother, which changed my world for good. 

Arthur and I had not seen each other for about 5 years, but there was an increasing attraction that seemed to pull us together.  When I first saw him it seemed as though I was a girl who was falling in love at the mere sight of a guy.  At the party we talked and laughed and after the party our conversion did not end.  It seemed as though we could talk for hours about anything in the world. 

For the next few days our connection grew, but before long I would have to head back home.  Once I was home we managed to stay in contact by telephone and through writing each other. Our relationship grew as well as my dependence on his kind words and encouraging compassion.  Arthur always seemed to say exactly what I needed to hear.  He would always ask, "How was your day?" and no matter how bad his was he always wanted to hear about mine.  He always managed to calm me down when I was angry, sad, or depressed just by saying, "It will be okay."  Arthur would always do small things such as opening the car door or saying how nice I looked.  These were things that I was not accustomed to in previous relationships.

Over about 7 months and 700 miles we grew closer and closer.  We were both really scared of marriage, but the idea of not being together scared us even worse.  So on November 14, 1998 we were married.  It was a beautiful candlelight wedding with all of our family and friends present at a local church.  The words "I do" still ring loudly in my head.

Since that day, almost 3 years ago, our relationship has become even stronger.  Arthur has become "my everything."  He is considerate, compassionate, and charming all at the same time.  He is the reason I wake in the morning and he calms me to sleep every night.  He has not only become the family I never had, but somehow being with him takes away all my fears. Just to hear him say, "I love you" makes my day and I know somehow it always will.

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